March 2014 – How To Stop Your Cell Phone From Ruining Your Love Life

How To Stop Your Cell Phone From Ruining Your Love Life

Take it from me – your partner resents your cell phone.

Actually, it’s more than that. She or he has a mental list of all the times it has interrupted … ahem… important activities or events. And this stresses you out.

You’re not dumb.  You’ve read the articles that say that smartphones and texting are killing your love life. 

“But my boss has me on call,” you say. “I have to keep my cell on all the time.”

Stop.

Ask yourself this question: is it the device that’s causing you stress or the way it affects your relationship?

Is it the ultra urgent, once-a-day or once-a-week message you get when a system has gone down and needs your attention?  Or is it the hundreds of texts and emails you look at when you are with your partner?  Uh huh, thought so.

It isn’t really the fact that you “have to” carry the cell for your job that’s the issue, is it?

Heck no. 

So stop using that excuse, and make a decision to change how you use your phone.  It’s a tool you have, don’t let it have you.

Here is my advice: 

Be smart about using the technology by setting different sounds/ringtones for urgent work related items. 

If you can, ignore the rest.  ALL the rest.  Don’t even put the phone on vibrate, especially when you are supposed to be focused on your most significant other.

Impossible?  Nope.

Humanity has thrived without this technology for a long time.  It’s your choice to live with the consequences of not using it wisely.

Remember the Crosby, Stills & Nash song “Love the One You’re With”?  Wisdom from Stephen Stills is perhaps more true today than it was when he penned the lyrics in 1970, which (with apologies) I will paraphrase here:Love

Don’t be angry, don’t be sad

Don’t sit texting over good times or bad

When there’s a friend sitting right next to you

And they’re just waiting for something to do.

 If you are having trouble figuring out how you will actually do this, how you will change the priorities in your life, I can help.  Ex-iting from technology to relationships is my specialty.

 

 

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